Menopause brings many physical and emotional changes, and it's completely normal for these to affect your sex life. Hormonal changes can influence arousal, sensitivity, vaginal lubrication and even confidence, meaning intimacy may feel different than it once did.
The good news is that these changes don't mean your sex life has to end. Many people discover new ways to experience pleasure during and after menopause, and sex toys can become a valuable part of that journey. Used alongside communication, lubrication and patience, they can help make intimacy more comfortable, enjoyable and satisfying.
Every person's experience is different, but some of the most common changes include:
These changes are completely normal and don't affect everyone in the same way.
Many people find that sex toys help them reconnect with their bodies by providing stimulation that's difficult to achieve manually.
Depending on your preferences, they may help by:
There's no "right" type of toy. The best choice depends entirely on what feels comfortable for you.
Small, simple and versatile, bullet vibrators and vibrating eggs can be a good place to start if you're exploring sex toys during menopause. Their compact size makes them easy to control, while different vibration settings allow you to experiment gradually and find the level of stimulation that feels comfortable for you.
Bullet vibrators are particularly suited to external stimulation, while vibrating eggs offer another option if you'd like to explore internal stimulation. If sensitivity has changed during menopause, start with a lower setting and give yourself time to discover what feels pleasurable now. There's no need to rush or aim for a particular result.
Tabooboo The Lunch Break Bullet Vibrator
A compact option for anyone who prefers external stimulation, this mini bullet offers 10 vibration functions so you can experiment with different sensations and intensities. It's also USB rechargeable and waterproof, making it a convenient choice for beginners or anyone looking for a smaller, easy-to-handle vibrator.
Loving Joy Remote Controlled Love Egg Vibrator
For those interested in exploring internal stimulation, the Loving Joy Love Egg is coated in soft silicone and offers 10 vibration functions. The wireless remote works from up to 6 metres away, allowing you to adjust the vibrations yourself or introduce the toy into intimate moments with a partner.
Mina Astral 10 Function Love Egg
Another option for exploring internal stimulation, the Mina Astral combines a soft silicone coating with 10 vibration functions and remote control from up to 6 metres away. It's USB rechargeable and waterproof, with a range of settings that lets you take your time experimenting with different sensations.
Not sure which style is right for you? Explore our full range of bullet vibrators and love eggs to find different shapes, controls and vibration options to suit your preferences.
Changes in hormones during menopause can affect natural lubrication, sensitivity and the way different types of stimulation feel. If internal stimulation is comfortable for you, a G-spot vibrator can offer another way to explore pleasure at your own pace.
G-spot vibrators typically have a curved or shaped tip designed to target the front vaginal wall. Starting slowly, using plenty of suitable lubricant and experimenting with lower vibration settings can help you discover what feels comfortable and enjoyable for your body.
Everyone experiences menopause differently, so there's no single G-spot vibrator that's right for everyone. Explore our full range of G-spot vibrators to compare different shapes, sizes and vibration options and find one that suits your preferences.
Changes during menopause can sometimes mean less natural lubrication, which may make intimacy or using sex toys feel less comfortable than before. Adding a good personal lubricant can help reduce friction and make exploring different sensations feel smoother and more comfortable.
Water-based lubricants are a particularly versatile choice as they're compatible with most sex toys, including silicone toys. If you're using a silicone-based lubricant with a silicone toy, always check the manufacturer's compatibility guidance first.
Lubido Water Based Lubricant 500ml
A water-based lubricant in a generous 500ml bottle, Lubido is a practical option if you're looking for an everyday lubricant to keep close at hand. Its water-based formula also makes it a versatile companion for many different types of sex toys.
Loving Joy Silky Hybrid Lubricant 250ml
If you prefer a silkier feel, Loving Joy combines water and silicone in a hybrid formula designed to provide long-lasting lubrication. As this is a hybrid lubricant containing silicone, check compatibility before pairing it with silicone sex toys.
Sliquid Naturals H2O Water-Based Lubricant 59ml
Sliquid Naturals H2O is a water-based lubricant in a compact 59ml bottle, making it a convenient option if you'd like to try a smaller size. Its water-based formula makes it suitable for pairing with a wide variety of sex toys.
Whether you're exploring pleasure on your own or with a partner, don't be afraid to use as much lubricant as you need and reapply when necessary. Explore our full range of sex lubricants to find a formula that feels comfortable for you.
Although menopause changes the body, it doesn't take away the ability to experience intimacy or pleasure.
Many people find this stage of life offers an opportunity to explore different forms of stimulation, learn what feels good now and discover products that suit their changing needs.
The most important thing is taking your time, choosing products that prioritise comfort and remembering that every experience is unique.
Can menopause reduce sex drive?
Yes. Hormonal changes during menopause can affect libido, although everyone's experience is different. Stress, sleep and overall wellbeing can also play a role.
Are vibrators safe to use during menopause?
For most people, yes. Choosing body-safe materials, following the manufacturer's instructions and using a suitable lubricant can help ensure a comfortable experience.
Which sex toy is best for menopause?
There's no single best option. Some people prefer gentle external vibrators, while others enjoy G-spot or wand vibrators. Comfort and personal preference are key.
Should I use lubricant with sex toys during menopause?
Many people find that a water-based lubricant improves comfort, particularly if vaginal dryness is a concern.
Can couples use sex toys during menopause?
Absolutely. Couples' toys can be a great way to explore intimacy together and discover new forms of pleasure without focusing solely on penetration.
Menopause can bring changes to your body, but it doesn't mean giving up on pleasure, intimacy or feeling connected to yourself or your partner. While your needs and preferences may evolve over time, there's no reason why a fulfilling sex life can't continue throughout this stage of life.
Whether you're trying a gentle bullet vibrator, exploring internal stimulation with a G-spot vibrator or simply discovering the difference a good lubricant can make, the most important thing is to take things at your own pace. There's no right or wrong way to explore intimacy, and what feels good is unique to you.
Above all, be patient with yourself. Menopause is a natural part of life, and finding new ways to experience comfort and pleasure is all about curiosity, communication and choosing products that help you feel confident and comfortable.
If you're ready to explore, browse our range of vibrators, lubricants and sexual wellness products to find options designed to support comfort, confidence and intimacy at every stage of life
