Taking your first steps into the unknown can be daunting, especially when it comes to foreplay and sex. Yet once you have taken that leap and tried something new, it is very rare that you will want to go back, so the initial apprehension is certainly worth it.
Bondage might not be for everyone. Keep in mind that there are varying levels of the bondage experience and there should be no pressure to go further than you are comfortable. S&M has been made incredibly fashionable by books and films such as Fifty Shades of Grey, but as we all know, real life isn’t always like the movies.
We have put together some easy to follow tips in order for you to take your first steps into the world of bondage.
First of all, it is best to try something like this with someone that you know well. Granted, part of the allure of bondage is the anticipation of the unknown and the excitement that being restrained can bring, but should you decide that you don’t like it or wish to change how you are doing things, it is much easier to alter its course with someone you trust. Your own safety should be one of the most important things to consider, as well as knowing your own boundaries and being sure of how far you are willing to go.
As we have mentioned there are many levels to bondage and you will need to decide what is best for you. A blindfold and handcuffs can be erotic, but also very romantic, staying within a certain safe zone that can easily be stopped without any awkwardness should you decide not to continue. If you are looking to push things further, a whip or spanker can be fun and extremely exciting. Bongage collars and gags are the next step up, followed by bondage ropes and even ball crushers. As long as you and your partner are in agreement to how far you wish to go and how much pain, if any, you would like to experience, the options are plentiful. A safe word is advisable if you are going beyond the blindfold stage, just to feel safe in the knowledge that you can pull things back immediately if it is going beyond what you are comfortable with.
You may never have discussed the idea of bondage with your partner, or may have been dismissive of it if they have suggested it in the past, so getting things started can be a nervous time. If you would like to start slowly, then a blindfold is a good idea and is a perfectly natural thing to have next to your bed. As things start to get sexual, reach over and pick it up, suggesting with a smile that it might be fun if you or they wear it. If this is agreeable, then perhaps reach into your bedside cabinet to retrieve the pair of handcuffs you ‘just happen’ to have on standby! This will open the discussion to further bondage experiences and make for a fun evening in the process. From here you can further explore the ideas of being submissive or dominant, or indeed a bit of both!
